5 signs that your partner wants you to have sex and not love
A compulsive stereotype thatonly men are looking for the opportunity to enter into a relationship solely for the sake of sex, however, studies in the field of personal and social psychology argue that women are just as intentionally entering into casual sexual relations.
The topic of admissibility of entering into a long-term relationship for the sake of sex, rather than feelings, deserved special attention of researchers.
Studies confirm that men are sexuallymore than women (according to previous studies), although men, like women, stressed the importance of emotional connection in sexual life.
Men and women differed in the notion ofrelations. So, for example, women are more focused on love, based on sympathy or friendship, for men, love often begins with hunting or playing.
A woman can not consist in sex-based relationships if she lacks friendship, care and attention, and a man - if he lacks playful "fervor" can not give you even sex.
Let's look at 5 signs that your partner wants sex, not love:
1. A partner does not want to bring a relationship to something specific.
In the past, your partner had a lotshort-term relationships? For one reason or another, they ended in parting. Most likely, in this way they tried to avoid attachments, excluding even a hint that someone might harm their feelings.
If a person can not, or does not want to take care to the fullest, avoids any long-term relationships, this is one of the signs that he is only interested in sex, not love.
2. The partner avoids the exchange of emotions.
If a person feels uncomfortable, sharing with you their experiences, disappointments, sorrows and anxieties - this is a problem due to the fact that he is unlikely to be able to show you his love.
In his book "Dangerous Passion: why jealousy is as necessary as love and sex. "David Bass emphasizes that men and women have different expectations from certain aspects of relationships. For example, the ability to share their feelings and the ability to remain faithful. So a woman will be very upset when she learns that her partner has a strong emotional connection with another woman. For a man, the most terrible blow will be physical treason.
At first glance, "emotional" treason, cansound like a bad joke, however, this is a real event, and serious. When a person prefers to hide their emotions and not show their feelings, including feelings for a partner, most likely it means that there are no feelings.
Just sex. If your partner shares his experiences with another person, then he is the potential partner for his romantic relationship.
All emotional contacts, especially -positive, form the basis of any healthy relationship, if a person wants love, not just sex. Thus, a person overwhelming or hiding his emotions, is in communication precisely not for the sake of romance.
3. Sometimes you have sex, even if you do not really want it.
When your partner uses you, he does not make significant adjustments to your desires, following solely his needs and instincts.
In such situations, often, you have more sex,than you yourself would have wanted. If at least once there was such a situation when you clearly demonstrated the lack of desire for intimacy, but your partner showed perseverance and achieved the desired, this is an occasion to ponder. And if this happens often - there's nothing to think about. It's time to escape.
The boundaries between the onset of sex under pressurepartner and rape, are very relative. If you unequivocally made it clear that you do not have a substantial desire, but sex did take place, in fact, against your will, then in most of the laws of the world, this is rape. Regardless of marital status, by the way.
4. Most of your plans are not realizable with your partner.
Dinner? Sorry, I have a late meeting, can not cancel, maybe I'll drop in later? How about a picnic, say, in a park? No, I'm sorry, I already have plans outlined, and I can not include you in them, maybe we'll have a snack together some other time?
If your partner finds an excuse to be absent fromholidays, significant dates for you, dodges your plans, and, God forbid, misses your birthday, you can be sure - your relationship is extremely superficial. And more specifically, you are only involved in the sexual life of a partner, and from the rest you are simply excluded.
5. All your conversations are reduced to either flirting or interrupted.
The partner reduces most of the conversations to "dirty"topics? Trying to nullify all other conversations or even try not to communicate with you if you do not like those conversations that he raises? Another simple "test", failed. If every conversation, in the presentation of your partner is a prelude, then it is obvious that he is looking for intimacy, not relationships.